Single ladies are more attracted to the married men nowadays ?

Assalamualaikum 

Okay this entry is very the so so so so serioussssss one .

Last evening , me and my mum was on the way to our tuition centre 

Then suddenly , there was a quiet enticing topic that issued by my mom which is -

"Someone's hubby is more attractive than the single men nowadays"

Okay , i'd realize about this thing before but i didnt take this matter seriously as i think it wont be happened continously but then nowadays , it's like a new trend that a single lady more attracted with the married man .

I've often heard about "sugardaddy" or maybe "concubine" before .
But i was too young to understand with what the meaning of those word on that time
So i assumed that those things are normal and i didnt have to take them seriously

But nowadays , i often heard that there are quiet a big numb of single ladies who are more attracted to the married man . Omg . Why it happens ? It scares me like seriously .
Amir , can you be loyal to me when we're already married soon ? Just me ? Lol =p 
(Question banned . Really out of topic =p )

Okay let's back to the point ,
Okay i'll give you an example . Errmm like ... Okayy

Eg :
One day , you're at any shopping complex , alone . And all of sudden , you see your father's friend is there but not with your mother's friend but he is with someone else , who might be a stranger for you . You had never seen her before at your friend's house or either at any parties of your friend . Your father's friend and that young lady are cuddling intimately or maybe they are shopping ? Then what would be on your mind on that time ? Then you found out that the lady is still single and she's not your cousin's friend or maybe anyone that related to your friend . 


Okay , that's what i mean .
A single lady , who is in a relationship or maybe i can say in a "secret-relationship" , with a married man .

Ohh i dont want to discuss about this matter seriously because my words might wound anyone who is currently reading this entry hehe sorry . I dont have any intention to hurt anyone here with my words but yeah , you know guys , this matter is getting serious and i know no one here want their father is in a any "secret-relationship" with any stranger girl outta there isn't it ?

But what i gonna ask you now is - Why there are alot of single ladies are willingly to be with the one , i mean guy , who is someone's hubby already ? Why not they just be with any guys who are single and desperately seeking for any ladies to be their wives ? 

Now , let us open a big table , have some cakes , tea or any hot drinks and discuss about this matter ?
Hehehe sounds so serious isnt it ? Nevermind . Ill find it the answer alone *sobs*

I dont know what's on your mind now friends
But this is some of my own point of view / factor  , why there are alot of single ladies nowadays are more attracted to the married men .

1st - TRAUMA
Lol . I dont know why this 'trauma' word is on my mind now but i think it is one of the factor why young and single lady nowadays is more love to be with someone who is already married . Yeah maybe that girl had been in alot of relationship with many single guys but eventually all of the relationship were failed and didnt last longer and the lady is too sick and eery or maybe TRAUMA to be in a relationship with any single guy anymore ? Make sense or not ? Huehue =p


2nd - MATURITY
Ohyeahhh , nowadays there are alot of smart ladies out there . I repeat , SMART LADIES . Ofcourse , the one who is so smart will act like a smart one isnt it ? I didnt say that ALL THE SMART LADIES but i'm pretty sure that majority of the smart ladies have a matured behavior too . So ofcourse , they wouldnt find or want the one who is so not matured to be their husband right ? Yeah i can see that there are alot of single guy who are matured but there are more more more alot of single guy who didnt as matured as what women want . So these kind of single ladies , who really loves the ones who are so matured , will more attracted to someone's hubby as this group of men are indeed matured . So all the jejaka-jejaka idaman malaya , if you wanna get married with a smart lady , so u have to be matured and please leave some of your so childish behaviour okay ? =p Hehehe


3rd - ESTABLISHED
Okay , this is the most intresting one . I know , most of the smart ladies (not in educational matters as in the 2nd factor above but ehem ehem .. bijak nak hidup =p ) will find the one who have alot of $$$$ and can guaranteed them a very very comfy and better life ahead . They ( ladies ) will more to think bout how they can get the $$$ to shopping or maybe can a get a very fancy car , house , jewelery , branded handbags , shoes , clothes and etc etc etc etc etc . They know , not all the single guys can give these kind of thing to them as the single guys' life are not really stable as the married men . They know , the married one is already have a very stable life and can give them what they want / need . This is so so so make sense right ? =p


4th - INTEREST
Aaaaaa i dont want to give much comment on this factor . But yeah maybe , they , themselves who are intrested to the married men . Not because the married men have a very stable life , $$$ and blablabla but it's already likes a nature that they're intrested with the old men / married men . Faints* Okay , it's all up to them lah kn because it is their interest but for me it's kinda weird because heyyy there are alot of handsome + single guys outta there but your eyes is more fascinated to the married one ? Om om om :3


Somehow , i feel so pity to anyone's wife who just found out or already found that but buat buat dunno that  that that that oh so many that , okay that their hubby are in a relationship with any girls outta there . Their life might became quiet complicated after found out the truth . But anyhow , life goes on . I know it hurts but it more hurts if you just stay at the same place and didnt do anything that might can help you to get a better life ahead even your heart is already broken into the pieces . Live your life back with all the pieces . Make alots of doa , note this please ; doa orang yang teraniaya sangatlah Allah dengar dan makbulkan inshAllah , and keep sabar and sabar and sabar . Sabar separuh daripada iman . Setiap yang terjadi ada hikmahnya dan semestinya hikmah itu adalah akan menjadikan hidup anda lebih baik dr hari semalam . InshAllah . Trust me , one fine day , all of it will  get back to normal and you can have your life back . Dont give up . Sentiasalah menjadi optimistik and paling penting sentiasala bersangka baik dengan Allah .



Dalam sebuah hadith ada mengatakan -

"Dari Jabir berkata: Bersabda Rasulullah saw, Janganlah sekali-kali kamu mati kecuali dalam keadaan berprasangka baik terhadap Allah, sesungguhnya terdapat satu kaum dibinasakan kerana telah berprasangka buruk terhadap Allah Azza Wajall (sebagaimana firman Allah) "Dan yang demikian itu adalah prasangkamu yang telah kamu sangka terhadap Tuhanmu, prasangka itu telah membinasakan dirimu, maka jadilah kamu termasuk orang-orang yang merugi".

Ohhhhh man , me is just giving advices to the those who are already married ?! Amely , you're still young -,- Lol . But who says me cant give advices to them ? Ofcourse i can =p Trolololo =p  Aiy aiy captain ! Kbai .

p/s : I want to be a very good pakar motivasi one day . Ouch ouch ouch 

Aku terima nikahnya..

Assalamualaikum :)(:

Aku terima nikahnya ... But it doesnt mean that i'm going to get married with someone .

Dont get me wrong hihi . I was watching a drama @astroPrima just now .

Tajuk drama dia is Aku terima nikahnya . And one of the pelakon utama drama ni is Rozita Che Wan

MashAllah , cantiknya RCW pakai tudung :) Suka tengok ! So lovely !

Then ada satu scene ni , RCW and sorng lg watak dlm drama ni , i cant remember wht's her name ..... Sigh

Tp dlm scene tu RCW and sorng lg ni pergi untuk berjumpa dengan seorang ustazah untuk discuss tentang satu topik ni . Tht topic agak interesting and made me gine my 100% focus on that ! Hehe

Topik yang dibincangkan adalah tentang buruk sangka & instict seorang isteri !

Sdg kusyuk amely mkn nasi goreng ni and all of sudden lps dgr tajuk tu trus letak nasi and kuatkn volume :p

I'm not a someone's wife bt inshAllah one day .. who knows :p

K gatai ! 

Ingt lg apa ustazah tu cakap ;

Buruk sangka itu haruslah ada dalam diri setiap isteri . Knp ? Bkn buruk sangka tu buruk ke utk diri sendiri ?

Buruk sangka ni terbahagi kepada 2 jenis . Iaitu buruk sangka yg bgs & buruk sangka yg memudaratkan .

Untuk seorang isteri lah kan , it is a big okay if korang berburuk sangka pada suami 

Tapi buruk sangka tu haruslah dalam keadaan yang kecil / tidak over .

Jangan sampai buruk sangka tu boleh memudaratkan diri sendiri .

Kita sebagai seorang wanita , semua org tahu instict wanita itu sgt kuat & seseorang wanita itu mampu merasai apa apa perubahan yg berada disekelilingnya apatah lagi seorng isteri yg sgt tahu akan perangai suaminya .

Isteri yang baik , bila instict dia merasakn sesuatu yg kurang enak mcm tahu si suami ada hide something frm her , isteri yg baik tdk akn mcm rebel / buat tindakn yg terburu-buru ttp isteri yg baik akn siasat akn perkara ni btl btl , mohon dia & petunjuk daripada Allah swt . Isteri yg baik akn berdoa ;

"Ya Allah , jikalau suami aku adalah seorang yang baik tunjuklah kepada aku kebaikan yg dilakukanya tetapi jika suami aku adalah sebaliknya , tunjukkanlah juga kepada aku akan perkara sebaliknya itu.."

Then kalau lah btl si suami ada melakukan keburukan doakan supaya si suami dijauhkn dirinya dr sentiasa melakukan keburukan / maksiat . Doa isteri yang baik akan cpt dimakbulkan . Jika benar si suami ada membuat keburukan psti cpt je dpt jwpn dr Allah . So jgn risau , gunakn instict anda sebaik-baiknya . Even saya bukan someone yg sudah berumah tangga tp ni je yg saya mampu berkongsi sbb this topic sgt menarik perhatian saya ^_^

Ada jgk yg terlalu fikir negatif / berburuk sangka kepada pasangan sendiri sampai kn bole memudaratkn diri and plg worst bila diri kena dirawat di hospital sakit jiwa ! Hoh :o

Berburuk sangka bgs tp ala kadar jelah k ? Jgn terlalu over sampai sakitkn diri sendiri

Kdg-kdg kita buruk sangka tp benda tu tk btl pun . Tp sebab kita terlampau fikir negatif . Jd mcmtulah

So kalau instict terasa apa apa , cpt cpt berjumpa si Dia . Mohon doa dan petunjuk 

InshAllah akan ditunjukkn kepada kita apa yg btl :) InshAllah .Amin

Muka bahagia sebab tak perlu nak buruk sangka dekat sesapa . 

Cukup berburuk sangka dkt diri sendiri . Ekekeke buleh ka lagu tu ? ^_^

p/s : sedih tgk gmbr gath budak budak GBS :(

Dear Muslim Girl , you look aint cool with that ciggarate

Assalamualaikum :)(:

1st of all i'd like to say Jazakallah khairan to the new followers of my blog

Alhamdulillah , there are about 1000 something followers on my blog

Amely start ber-blogging since 2011 , August . 

For me , im still one of the newbie . Need to make many improvement to attract people to read my blog

I'm not 100% hoping that everyone can stop on my blog and click the "follow" button

But i just hope that i can leave something for whoever yang baca blog amely :) InshAllah

Yesterday , i was on the way to somewhere with my family

And suddenly i saw a very pretty girl who was heading to the one of the nearest stall

She is so pretty . With the long hair , fair skin and nice smile + make up on her face .

I was staring at her for a moment . I really adore the way she smiles , walks and everything

But suddenly.... there's something which is quite "eye-catchy" at her hand 

Its a ciggarate guys ! Yesh im pretty sure with that . Its a ciggarate

Oh now i know , the girl that i was staring at is smoking... Sigh*

 

Then me heading off to a place which is so crowded . Crowded with the servants of Allah swt :)

 

There's a lot of people with different styles , different looks and different religions

I hate being in this kind of situation , i mean "crowded" ,  but somehow it kinda nice for me because i can see many types of people around me .

I was helping my mummy to find a nice necklace for my lil sis , as my lil sis is a "accesories-lover" :p

Suddenly there were some smokes that hit on my face and i was coughing while did some internal mologue which sound like "kenapa mesti nak merokok dekat tempat yang crowded and sempit mcm ni?!urgh"

I was trying to find who the one yang smoke at that such of crowded place and suddenly my eyes were looking at someone with a ciggar at the hand . 

And guess what ? Tuan rokok itu adalah seorang perempuan ! "Nauzubillah..harap-harap aku tkkn mcmni"

I just kept silence and thought - how come that girl can smoke while she knows that she is so not eligible to smoke plus she's a girl ! A girl who was born is Islam and the fact that cant be denied anymore is SHE IS A MUSLIM GIRL !

I closed my eyes for awhile and said to me myself , "Y i no smoke?"

Its not because i wanna smoke but i wanna put myself in her shoes . 

If she a muslim girl and i bet she's still young and she can smoke , so why cant i ?

And suddenly i got the answer .... "Rambut sama hitam , hati lain-lain"

Our journey was continued to somewhere yang dipenuhi dengan gerai-gerai kecil

And ofcourse bilangan manusia-manusia semakin bertambah as it was 1pm and its lunch hour if not be mistaken lah kan .

And AGAIN , for the 3 times , i found a girl who was wearing a purple baju kurung with the very cute hairband on the hair but unfortunately there's a cigg in her hand :( And i asked myself for the thousand time , why is that happen ? Long-sigh*

Lumrah -

Bila kita menegur seseorang ke arah kebaikan , kita pulak yang akan dimarahi mereka .

Katanya kita "bajet baik,perasan bagus,get a mirror" bla bla bla...

So what actually we have to do ?

 

Dalam islam kita boleh berdakwah menggunakan byk cara . Berdakwah atau at-tabligh adalah salah satu sifat yg spttnya ada dlm diri setiap umat Islam -

"Dan hendaklah ada di antara kamu satu puak yang menyeru (berdakwah) 

kepada kebajikan (mengembangkan Islam), dan menyuruh berbuat segala 

perkara yang baik, serta melarang daripada segala perkara yang salah (buruk 

dan keji). Dan mereka yang bersifat demikian ialah orang-orang yang berjaya........" - Ali Imran , ayat 104

Kita bukan cuba untuk menunjuk yang kita baik tp bukankah sepatutnya kita menegur seseorang untuk ke arah kebaikan? Kalau tkbole tegur dengan lidah , gunakan anggota badan mahupun hati .

Berdakwah mungkin susah tp jd senang kalau kita boleh berdakwah dengan cara -

1st - Bil-Hikmah atau secara bijaksana :)

2nd - Mauziah al-Hasanah atau secara melalui nasihat dan pengajaran yang baik :)

3rd - Mujadalah billati hiya ahsan atau berbahas dengan cara yang baik :)

InshAllah kalau kita mampu buat mcmni , kita mampu menarik seseorng untuk bergerak ke jalan yang benar

Nak ke kita tengok Islam dicemuh ? Kita marah bila org cemuh islam tapi kita jaga tak tatasusila kita sebagai seorang Islam ? :)(:

To be frank , dear sisters you no look cool with the ciggs in your hand .

All of us wanted to be a respected one but how come people gonna respect us if we're actually showing the -ve attitude to the people around us ?

Yeshh , dont judge any books by its cover but if you found a book and its cover was burnt and what do you expect for the book ? Can you still read it ? Can u still understand for the whole story of that book ?

I bet your answer is NO !

So same goes like a muslim girl who is smoking but in the same time she wanna people around her gives her some respect and accept all the way she is .

Yes people can give her a little respect but how with the smoke & ciggs thiggy ? :)

Think it by your own .

p/s : Semoga semuanya berubah dan baik-baik belaka . Amin

Why i wear Hijab ?

Assalamualaikum 

Today's topic is specially to those Muslims girl outta there

This entry is not solely to be read by all of you girls but maybe this entry can be something that inspired you guys to love hijab , to wear hijab instead of showing something that shouldnt be showed to the men outta there

This entry is quite long for you girls to finish it but if we have the right attention , insyAllah you girls will perfectly done read this entry :)

This is where the difficulties usually come in. For many sisters, it truly is a jihad. I remember very vividly how scared I was the first day I put on the headscarf and went out into public. As long as you are just wearing the modest clothes, nobody has to know that you are a Muslim. Once you complete your hijab with the headscarf, you are suddenly announcing to everyone who sees you that "I am a Muslim". Here is some advice based on my own experiences.

Wear it for the sake of Allah SWT

Various statements are made about why you should wear hijab, such as for modesty or for protection, but the real reason that we wear hijab is that Allah SWT has commanded it. Whenever anyone asks you, why do you dress like that, that's the only answer you need to give them.

Allah SWT is the source of everything we have, our existence, our life, our capability, even our goodness. If He ever stopped sustaining us, we would vanish in that instant. If He ever took away what he gives us, we would never have even a speck of it. If we worked for millions of years, we could never repay Him for all that He has given us. And yet He does give it to us, and all He asks in return is that we do our best to obey what He has commanded us. Surely wearing hijab is a very small thing that you can do for Him compared to what He does for you!

Wear it for the hope of Jannah

Allah SWT makes tests for us in this world. He makes things difficult for us. He wants to see if we will remember Him, if we will have faith in Him, and if we will trust in Him. These qualities are what is meant by "sabar".

Allah SWT does not lose the work of anyone, ever (see Surah Ali Imran ayah 195). Even if it seems like nobody is paying attention to you or notices or appreciates good things that you do, Allah SWT has seen them, and He will not forget them. Even when it seems like the whole world is against you, Allah SWT is always there for you when you turn to Him. Remember this.

Allah SWT always wants the best for us and in His wisdom He knows why each thing that happens to us is in fact best for us. When it seems like everything is going wrong and life is just one disaster after another, it is easy to forget this and to become bitter and skeptical. Yet we must remember always to have faith that Allah SWT knows best why He has willed this for us, and we must always ask Him only "Make me pleased with what You have willed for me".

This world we live in, although it seems at times to be the only real thing, is actually fleeting compared to the Hereafter, which is better and more abiding. The trials of this world will seem as fleeting as a nightmare when seen from the Hereafter, and the pleasures of this world will also seem as fleeting as a dream when seen from the Hereafter. It's our happiness in the Hereafter that we should be most worried about attaining, because it is what will last forever; and it's our suffering in the Hereafter that we should be most worried about avoiding, because it also will last forever.

Allah SWT has promised Jannah to those who remain steadfast in their faith in Him and who trust in Him. The more difficult it is for you to have sabr, the greater the reward for it. So what will it be? Ease in this world, and perhaps the eternal sufferings in Hell? Or difficulty in this world, and inshallah the eternal bliss of Jannah? Let's face it, the old cliches are true: there's no such thing as a free lunch and you can almost never have your cake and eat it too. We've all got to face difficulties some time. Better by far that they be in the world than in the Hereafter.

So that's what you should set your mind to. Yes, it's difficult to wear hijab. You may be rejected by your family or your friends, you may face harassment and persecution or be fired from your job. These are very scary thoughts. But if you have sabr and keep trusting in Allah SWT, I swear to you sister, this is the path to Jannah, and when you look back on the Day of Qiyamah you will know that it was worth it and have no regrets.

Wear it today and trust in Allah SWT for tomorrow

What do I mean by that? What I mean is that you should take it one day at a time, or even one outing at a time. Sometimes the future seems to stretch on forever and ever and you don't think you can make it that long. You want to give up before you even begin.

So sometimes the best thing to do is to keep you mind focused on what is immediately at hand. Allah SWT will take care of the future. If you have to go out to the market, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this activity and on getting through it. If you do get through it and nothing bad happened, then give thanks to Allah SWT for making it easy for you, and turn your mind to your next outing.

Or if you have to go out to school or work, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this one day and on getting through it. And give thanks to Allah SWT when you have made it, and turn your mind to the next day.

Eventually the outings will turn into days and the days into weeks, and the weeks into months. One day you will realize that you have been wearing hijab for quite a long time and it isn't really as bad as you feared, and Allah SWT helped you get through it. Don't be ashamed. Sometimes it is like this. The most important thing is to have sabr and keep your trust in Allah SWT always.

Wear it and spite the shaytan

My dear sister, the worries and fears in your mind are the whisperings of the shaytan. He wants to talk you out of obeying Allah SWT.

It is very easy to keep going around in circles in your mind and to dwell on all the things that could go wrong. I know that I myself have a tendency to do this, I put it off and I dither and I wait for "the perfect time". If I let myself, I would never do anything at all!

So the thing you have to remember is that you do not need to be perfect in iman to wear hijab. If perfection were a qualification, where is the sister who could wear it??

You must also not fall into the trap of thinking that you should wait until all your worries and fears have disappeared. They never will! Trust me on this, sister.

True courage is going ahead to do what's right even though you are still nervous and scared. So don't listen to the shaytan. Ignore the worries and fears he whispers into your mind. Tell him that you will not let him keep you from obeying Allah SWT and you will not let him rule your life.

Make the decision to wear it

Once you have come to know in your heart that you must wear hijab, then you have to set a day and

JUST DO IT

This is the only way. Set a day and when that day comes, you have to do it. Don't back down. Don't give up. Do it.

Offer solat istikarah. Make doa. Make lots of doa. Do not stop making doa. Ask Allah SWT to give you strength. Ask Him to make it easy for you. Ask Him to help you. He will, I swear it to you. He is always there for you when you turn to Him. Remember how much He has given you, how everything that you have, even your very existence, is due to Him. Remember that He deserves this from you. Remember the promise of Jannah. Remember that remaining patient and faithful through difficulty now may lead to Jannah, inshallah. Even if bad things happen, keep these thoughts in your mind. Don't worry about tomorrow. Just concentrate on getting through today, and leave tomorrow to Allah SWT until it gets here.

That's how you do it.

Final Words of Encouragement

I have been wearing hijab since i was in high school . I do not regret it. I have never for one instant regretted it. I do not regret it even one iota. Inshallah, you will discover that you feel the same. Even within a few months I came to feel that I would not be properly dressed if I went out not wearing hijab. This is when you know that you have made it!

Never feel that you are alone, or that you are the only one who is scared and worried and nervous. Just about every other sister who has travelled down this road has gone through the same things. I know I have. Your sisters are here for you. We have been where you are. We are encouraging you and cheering you on. We know what it takes because we had to find that in ourselves too. We are praying for your success just as we prayed for our own.

I look pretty when i smile but i believe that i look prettier with the hijab on my head :)

p/s : smile*